Gentleness : Power in Softness!

GENTLENESS is defined as showing consideration and personal concern for others. There is a proverb which says that "a gentle tongue breaks a bone". How true! As human beings, we are created to be relational. Machines are functional but you and I are wired to be relational. We cannot jump just at a touch of a button - there is a couldron of emotions and motivations within us that needs to be addressed before we are motivated to act. In other words, we don't care what others know until we know how much they care!

GENTLENESS is a character quality that requires strength and self-control. Think about it - it doesn't require character strength for someone to raise his voice and vent his anger but it does require that extra inner quality for someone to control his tongue and speak in a way that addresses the issue but not attack the person. Practice GENTLENESS by being careful and conscience with not only what you say but also how you say it. GENTLENESS is the character quality that will help you make the connection between the head and the heart. Demonstrate it well and you will develop relationships that are high on loyalty and commitment.

Justice : It's Not the Same as Fairness

"It's not fair!" - that's the cry of most children when things do not go their way. Come to think of it, even adults also lapse into this behavior regulary! What do you think?

In this world, there is no such thing as absolute fairness. The condition whereby everyone getting the same thing at the same time is unreal and ignore diversity among people. Why do we cry "unfair" so often? It is because the basis of fairness is comparison based on our own personal, selfish standards. JUSTICE on the other hand refers to unchanging, universal, morally upright standards of good character. JUSTICE does not waver in the midst of changing circumstances. JUSTICE is taking personal responsibility to uphold what is pure, right, and true.

When it comes to making decisions (especially important ones which has far-reaching consequences), we need a standard that is higher than ourselves. How then do we guard against falling into the "fairness" trap when it comes to decision-making?

1. Keep a clear conscience - Do what is right in each situation and live accordingly.
2. Keep a journal - Learn to reflect on life lessons so that you extract tested principles for successful living.
3. Keep the big picture - Consider the overall impact of your decision and do not be led by short term gains.